Do you find it difficult to say no without feeling guilty?
You’re not alone. Studies show that around 80% of people struggle to say no, often fearing rejection, guilt, or lost opportunities.
According to psychologist Susan Newman, author of The Book of No, we’re conditioned from childhood to seek approval. Saying yes feels safe, while saying no often triggers anxiety and guilt — but it doesn’t have to be that way.
Learning to say no is a skill, and like any skill, it can be practiced and mastered. Here are five powerful books that will help you reclaim your boundaries, protect your energy, and say no with confidence.
1. The Power of a Positive No – by William Ury
In this classic by negotiation expert William Ury, you’ll learn the “Positive No” method — a three-step technique that helps you say no while maintaining respect and empathy. It’s about asserting your interests and still preserving relationships.
“The other often much prefers a clear answer, even if it is No, than continued indecision and waffling.”
2. The Power of No – by James Altucher and Claudia Azula Altucher
This book teaches that saying no isn’t selfish — it’s self-respect. You’ll discover how to say no to people, habits, and commitments that drain you, creating more space for what truly matters.
“When you say yes to something you don’t want to do, here is the result: you hate what you are doing, you resent the person who asked you, and you hurt yourself.”
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3. The Book of No – by Susan Newman
Newman offers practical techniques to stop people-pleasing and start prioritizing your own needs. It’s a straightforward guide to setting guilt-free boundaries in your daily life.
“With no, your well-being becomes a priority.”
4. The Curse of Lovely – by Jacqui Marson
Marson explores what she calls “the curse of lovely” — the habit of saying yes to please others. Through real-life stories and therapy insights, she helps readers break free from guilt and live more authentically.
“If you believe you are only a good person if you say yes to everyone’s requests, then you will, inevitably, become overwhelmed.”
5. Saying No – by Asha Phillips
As a child psychotherapist, Phillips redefines “no” as a positive force. She shows that setting limits can nurture stronger relationships and self-respect — both for adults and children.
“Saying no does not have to be a denial or crushing of another; it can demonstrate belief in their strength.”
Saying no is not about rejection it’s about respecting your boundaries and values. Each of these books reminds us that no can be both kind and powerful.
So, how comfortable are you with saying no?
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